Is this you?
- "I need money/sex/attention/approval/appreciation/vacations/a partner in order to be happy."
- "I hate my job. I'm stuck there. I can't quit. I'll never succeed."
- "My children should listen to me/do their homework/clean their rooms/get alongwith each other/stop using drugs. "
- "I'm overwhelmed. There's too much to do. Nobody helps me."
- "I know what’s right for my children/spouse/parents/friends; if only they’d see the light we’d all be better off."
- "Our company is dysfunctional; we don’t communicate, we don’t cooperate, we don’t respect each other, morale is awful and productivity is down."
- "The world isn’t safe anymore; I’m frightened by war/terrorism/global warming/pollution/the economy."
- "I hate my body. It’s too fat/thin/short/tall/damaged/old/sick."
- "I’ve experienced severe trauma; I’ll never get over it."
- "I’m creatively blocked. I have no more good ideas. My talent has dried up."
- "I’ve been in therapy/on a spiritual path/worked with a coach for years and I don’t feel better."
- "I (or my partner/family member) shouldn’t be addicted to food/sex/drugs/alcohol/credit cards/gambling/cigarettes."
- "As a coach/counselor/holistic health professional, I wish there were a way to help my clients more easily break through their stuck places."
- "Other people are intimidating. I can't assert myself. I have a hard time saying no."
- "It’s important that others think well of me. Criticism and disapproval cut me to the core."
I work with people and organizations who have "tried everything" and are ready to find their own solutions. My clients from all walks of life have recognized the power of inquiry in addressing their most challenging situations, recurring problems, frustrating miscommunication and self-limiting beliefs. Relief from stress, balance, clarity, inner peace, increased efficiency, greater trust and happiness are some of benefits experienced in the light of examining and understanding how and why we live out of long-held beliefs rather than our own truth.
Transformational Inquiry can swiftly bring you to the root of beliefs that manifest as emotional suffering, relationship misfires and perceived personal limitations…allowing you to meet your problems with a clear mind and an open heart. As your facilitator, I offer no advice or suggestions other than to investigate your thoughts. I teach nothing but the simple process of inquiry itself. I will ask you direct, targeted questions and hold a safe, non-judgmental space where you have the freedom to find your own answers and through them, your own solutions.
"The effects of Carol's workshop here are spreading like a soft cloud, visible all around; our focus is sharper and the change in our lives is noticeable. My stories are clearly being undone and my husband is restructuring his company, facing situations in a peaceful way and back into his own business—literally!" —Laura Saavedra de Carro, Ponce, PR
Are We A Good Match?
You will be most successful in working with me if:
- You are willing to relinquish the defensive position of being "right" and begin from the peaceful position of "I don’t know."
- You recognize that your old perspective no longer works for you and are excited about blazing new trails.
- You seek your own answers…not another's.
- You are ready to make a time commitment and to invest in your own happiness.
- You do your homework between sessions and understand that this process is not about "fixing" or "getting" anything; it's an educational, self-management tool you can use as needed, for life.
- You have a history of being stubborn and resistant. ("Tough cases" do very well with this work; I know this because I am one!)
- Your personal integrity runs deep.
- You are naturally curious.
- You love to laugh.
Now that you know more about the variety of people I serve and the situations they bring to Transformational Inquiry, click here to learn more about how I work.
"The funniest things have been happening since we worked on my one-liner 'Ginger's rudeness disrupts our family." Last night, Ginger was going downstairs for a snack, and she voluntarily picked up her little sister's evening snack dishes which were on the linen chest in the hall, and took them downstairs and put them in the dishwasher. This morning, while I was making breakfast for the girls, she got out stuff to put on her oatmeal, as well as what Lily likes on hers, without being asked. Ginger was incredibly sweet last night and hung out with me for a while later in the evening. She was very sweet this morning as well.
"So I don't know exactly what happened yesterday; are you sure you didn't call my daughter up and do The Work with her while I wasn't paying attention?:
—Margaret R., OR
